Resources:

You can press on the blue coloured wording to be linked straight to their webpage from here.

Community Resources:

AHS Palliative Care Resource (PCR) Nurse:
403 501-3210

For equipment and supplies:
AJ’s Loan Cupboard (Medicine Hat)  403 580-5580  Bay #4 602A, Clay Ave. SE, Medicine Hat, AB. T1A 3K2

Medicine Hat Red Cross
398 Aberdeen Street SE, T1A 0R2
Tel: (403) 526-3048
Fax: (403) 529-0540

AHS Brooks & Bassano Hospital Volunteer Coordinator:
403 501-3207

AHS Home Care Nurse Office:
403 501-3244 (Brooks)
403 641-6127 (Bassano)

SPEC Association Family Resource Link

Stronger Life Connections offers resources to help you connect with others going through a loss so you don’t feel stuck behind a wall of silence.

https://www.stronger-lifeconnections.com/ or Facebook –  Stonger Life Connections

Helpful Links

Excellent educational material on our Facebook page: Prairie Rose Hospice Palliative Care Society

Grief support: www.mygrief.ca  Helps you understand and work through your grief.

  • Confidential
  • Access in the privacy of your own home
  • Developed by families and grief experts
  • Stories from people who have “been there”
  • A resource for professionals

Virtual Hospice: Provides answers to your questions on advanced illness, caregiving, loss and grief. Check out: 1.  2SLGBTQ+ access and receive inclusive, respectful care. 2. Caregiving videos. 3. When death is near

Alberta Hospice Palliative Care Association Check out:

1: You are not alone – grief connection program is seeking grieving Albertans who could use some friendly support.

2: Living Every Season – province wide virtual support group for Albertans living with life-limiting illnesses. Support for adults and their caregivers. 

Caregivers Alberta – Caring for Caregivers

 https://www.albertahealthservices.ca/info/Page14904.aspx – Saying Farewell

 

Always With Love

Expected Death ~ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don’t run out and call the nurse. Don’t pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment.

There’s a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there’s an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens.

We’re so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. “They’re dead!”

We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It’s not a problem to be solved. It’s very sad, but it’s not cause to panic.

If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what’s happening. If you’re at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.

Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What’s happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic.

Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into “do” mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event.

Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You’ll never get that time back again if you don’t take it now.

After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it’s easy for body and soul to get separated.

Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven’t caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what’s happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you’ll be better prepared.

You won’t get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.

Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it’s a gift to the people you’re with, and it’s a gift to the person who’s just died. They’re just a hair’s breath away. They’re just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they’re launched in a more beautiful way. It’s a service to both sides of the veil.

Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula.